I’ve been thinking a lot about mental health lately. You can blame the crappy weather or the books I’ve been reading (apparently, a non-fiction book about suicide doesn’t exactly put one in the happiest headspace, but whatever.) So, I’m going to recommend some stuff while also talking a little bit about mental health. That’s all the structure I’ve got. Deal with it.
I’ve never been into horror. As someone who suffers from the most anxiety, I’m scared literally 100% of the time about 100% of the things, and so I do not want to pay money to be even more scared. So, I don’t read much actual horror, but I just read We Need to Talk About Kevin by Lionel Shriver and I’ve never been so horrified in my entire life. There were times when I just had to stop reading because I wasn’t ready to know what happened next or because I needed some time to come to terms with what had just happened. I don’t know how people have time to worry about ghosts or vampires or werewolves when the actual world we live in actually exists and people just kill people and something could just fall on your head and kill you while you’re reading this and other people are capable of destroying your life with or without warning. That being said, you should read this book, unless you’re on the fence about having kids, and then you probably shouldn’t.
For most of my adult life, I’ve had a hard time articulating what it is exactly about the way we “Support Our Troops” at sporting events that bothers me. Billy Lynn’s Long Halftime Walk pretty much nails it in 300 pages. For a book that tackles so many big ideas, it is a surprisingly quick read. Reading this in conjunction with Stay: A History of Suicide and Philosophies Against It did manage to make my blood boil, though. Here is some data from Stay:
Shocking new Pentagon data showed U.S. troops were killing themselves at the rate of nearly one a day in 2012; the final count for the year was 349—more than died in combat…Overall, since the war in Afghanistan began more members of the U.S. military have taken their own lives than have died in the fighting there.
It seems to me that there may be better ways to “support the troops” than to let them stand on the football field at halftime and grant them the honor of getting to be in the presence of rich people for a few hours. I’m not positive, but I bet they could probably use more support than an autographed football. Not that the gestures aren’t nice, but instead of exploiting the soldiers to make yourself look better and more patriotic, if you are in the position of having like a zillion dollars, maybe use some of it to support organizations that help soldiers deal with PTSD, or that help them acclimate to civilian life, or something. Ok, rant over. You should read the book, it does a way better job of making its points while also being very entertaining.
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My last recommendation is that you listen to the Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but our country has a MAJOR issue with the way we approach mental health. The mission of this show is to let people understand that they are not alone and that mental illness, while devastating, can be dealt with using humor. Comedian Paul Gilmartin interviews one person on every show, they range from (well-known) comedians and artists to listeners of the show and experts in the mental health field. He also reads anonymous surveys that listeners have filled out on his website. The show can be, at times, pretty vulgar, and in addition to being heart-wrenchingly sad, it has made me accidentally laugh out loud during work on more than one occasion. Pro Tip: every episode gives a brief synopsis, so you can always skip ahead to the ones that seem most relevant to you, though I wouldn’t suggest skipping all the episodes that might not seem relevant, because I bet they may surprise you. If nothing else, we need more people talking casually about having and seeking help for their mental health issues and this podcast is a pretty good start.